Does Good looks matter?
If you are on any of the social
media, chances are that you would have already seen multiple gleaming pictures of
the new Canadian PM, Justin Trudeau. More than essaying the good work he has
done, 9/10 articles have gone on to describe his striking good looks. Women
have become lady ga-ga over him J . What I can remember from the
recent past is when Hina Rabbani Khar was appointed as the foreign minister of
Pakistan. Then, it was us men who went ga-ga and more. Same was the case with President
Kennedy, Clinton, Dubai’s crown prince, Queen in line Kate Middleton Queen
Raina, and many more world leaders.
As much as we all would love to say
that physical appearance doesn’t matter, it does. It definitely gives a person,
a head start. But we must know that a mannequin also looks good. Until and
unless one has a personality that compliments the good looks, the impression
evaporates like a vaporub.
Let us look at both sides of the
coin. By default, we have this tendency of unnecessarily demonizing good looks.
For instance, many people consider a person with striking good looks to be less
smart particularly if the person is a woman. Also, it is fashionable to say
looking good doesn’t mean much. To look at it objectively, one’s looking good
is just pleasant on another’s eyes. This will make the second person develop a
liking. This is true not only for humans. If there are two puppies – one of a
Golden Retriever and the other of a Pit bull, chances are you will like the
golden puppy a tad bit more than the other one. Now, think about a landscape.
On two sides of your room, you have two visuals. One, a majestic mountain with
its head in the clouds and its feet resting on the lap of a river with trees in
full bloom on its banks. Visual on the other side is a just a mud road seeking
solace in the shades of a couple of trees seeking solace in the shades of a
couple of trees. You will definitely want to wake up to the misty mountain than
the road. So I think we should stop judging ourselves for preferring beautiful
things.
But having said that, we think of
ourselves as being a more evolved species. If that is the case, isn’t it a
shame if we make our judgments based on only one of our senses which is
vision? Shouldn’t we employ our intellect, our mind and our sense of
right and wrong too while we try to make a semblance of a person? Like I said before,
there is nothing wrong in developing a liking towards a person because he/she
looks good. But that shouldn’t make us work against a person who is not as
blessed with generous genes. If we don’t make that attempt, what is the
difference between us and animals who make their selection based on physical
attributes alone?
Now, what do we lesser mortals do
who aren’t exactly Greek Gods? We should work on developing a pleasing personality.
It isn’t one where you say yes to everything and become a door mat. In my
opinion, a pleasing personality is where one develops traits which people find
affable. This affection that they develop will help you to communicate your
viewpoints effectively. Because of the way you put it across, people around
will appreciate your objectivity. That’s is when you hear “Hey, since you said
it, I don’t feel bad.” Or “Hey, we will agree to disagree on this. But it
doesn’t make me like you any lesser” Or “I know that you will do what is best
for both of us”. And if you are among those who are blessed with some Caucasian
good looks, developing a pleasing personality for you will make you as
irresistible as a Manmohan Singh who speaks J
Food fr thought :)
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